Distractions

If there is one thing I’ve learned recently, almost on accident, is that distractions are purely the death of all things good and forth-moving!

I’ve noticed that every complicated measure recently, has been almost always attributed to some form of distraction blind-siding my attention away from what I should’ve been focusing on. Anything from the smallest dime-sized distraction, to the monstrous ones that take me months to recognize and recover from. So much so, that I have now developed a point of action when it comes to winning the battle of being distracted.

…Here’s a High Level Overview:

  1. Be conscious of goals – being aware of my goals and strategies allow me to be conscious of anything that side-steps it’s progress.
  2. I’ve learned to Recognize distractions in 3 easy ways:Does it align with my goals, purpose and Identity? (Having a firm understanding of these three elements is crucial. If you realize you don’t have a clear understanding of these foundational truths, it may be time for some self-reflection.)
    1. Is this self-giving if you are a people pleaser? Or selfish in motive, if you are selfish-natured? (obviously this requires MAJOR vulnerability for honesty.)
    2. Does the end goal of this thought, act of service etc. limit my ability for moving forward? (This is a big one.)
  3. Hands up distractions; I’m arresting you! After you recognize something as a distraction – here’s the not-so-easy part – get rid of it! Evict it. Remove yourself from its destructive path. And quickly. This looks different depending on the scenario and may involve creative maneuvering, but your future-self will thank you for it later.

It in a Nutshell: As if guarding a newborn baby from a vicious attacker – guard your mind, will and emotions from distractions and it’s dangerous off-spring.

– Jae Teague

What distractions, whether small or large, cause you to get off course? I want to hear all about it!

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Burdened and Gifted – Gifted with a Burden

I am sensing transition, the type of life-changing transition that requires all of my attention, will-power and cooperation. I recognize that this is a good thing and that prayers will soon be answered. However, I am burdened with the possibility of my future being SO big, that I can’t handle it’s pressure or that I will disappoint those in whom I’ve been called to help.

I feel as though I am spiritually and emotionally being stripped of my past and I am about to receive the crown. My crown.

Exciting? Yes. But even more so burdensome, as I ponder if I am I ready for such a change. I sure hope so, because ready or not, it’s here!

I recognize that all of the mixed emotions of this time in my life is exactly what it feels like to be burdened and gifted.

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If I Could Sum Up…

…this time period in my life as a life lesson for moving forward, it’s simply this:

If something’s not working or not fitting, don’t force it! You may “force” something that shouldn’t be, in place of what should be! And that, is TRAGIC!

It’s like trying to stuff your toes in a shoe 2 sizes too small. You can force it, but why when you can just go get a shoe that was made for you, …your shoe, your size.

By forcing relationship, forcing smiles, forcing prediction, I unknowingly forced myself into a reality not my own. An unhappy version of me that bended, ever so gracefully, to the March of everyone else’s beat, but my own.

I know that now.

My future looks great. It’s emptied of the political wishy-wash of past trauma. It’s emptied of people only seeking selfish gain. It’s emptied of life distractions and time “sucks”.

It’s full of unexpected blessings. It’s full of genuine laughter. Time well spent, jobs well done. Most of all, it involves me not trying to fit my size 10’s in someone else’s size 8.

Make Moves Today!

A lot of people confuse being busy with making moves (or moving forward), but the reality is that those things could not be farther apart in definition.

Being busy is the combination of time-sucking tasks, that could be in your best interest, or not! They consist of taking on additional chores at home or work that don’t belong to you, and running pointless errands instead of resting.

Moving forward means that you are doing or thinking in a way that promotes self awareness, joy, a sense of purpose and ultimately leads to your life’s goals. Moving forward sometimes means clearing your schedule rather than cluttering it. It sometimes means adopting “NO” as your favorite word.

Let’s reflect: Are you just being busy …or are you making moves?

Here are 3 tips to help you make better decisions about adding to your to-do-list:

Does this task help me…

Move with intention?

Move with authority?

Move with a plan?

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Flourishing in the Desert

Living in the desert allows me to consistently be amazed by the growing and flourishing greenery that exists here. Though not always prominent, I am constantly impressed at how even amidst the driest and most unforgiving of summers, the flowers atop the Cacti still blossom, the birds and wildlife still find grub and other natural resources flourish without missing a beat.

This got me to thinking!

Whenever I have seasons of unmet expectations, I always liken it to being “stuck” in a dessert. I have a hyper imagination, so I imagine sitting under a dry brittle, leaf-less tree as I watch tumble weeds roll down the mounds of sand. I imagine that no life exists here. Nothing exciting here and nothing worth my time.

But the reality is, My desert can be an oasis, …but only if I let it. The moment I lay down “my” unrealistic expectations of life – or this tiny moment therein, I realize that even the parts of my story that takes me threw the desert, can still bear good fruit, be meaningful and produce praise-worthy moments. Just like the desert that is my home!

The moment I stop reaching for the sea and appreciate the dessert, I transform. My scenery doesn’t have to change, for there to be change.

I can then start to admire the tiny budding flowers, the desert animals that always have enough to eat and the beauty just in front of my face. I then start to see the “now” as the road map to what’s next, and not the stumbling block that should not be. I give birth to experience, growth, maturity and Change. I tap into the hidden beauty of my very own desert! (And, it doesn’t look nearly as bad as my imagination says it does, I just need to LOOK a little closer. 🙂 )

My personal takeaway notes: The desert is simply what you make of it. So, stop giving room to excuses and make you a personalized desert oasis – right here, right now!

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